Could it be that deep inside hurting couples exists and invisible "emotional love tank" with its gauge on empty? Could the misbehavior, withdrawal, harsh words, and critical spirit occur because of the empty tank? If we could find a way to fill it, could the marriage be reborn? With a full tank would couples be able to create an emotional climate where it is possible to discuss differences and resolve conflicts? Could that tank be the key that opens the door to a satisfying marriage?

I believe the answer is "Yes". God made us with a capacity for giving and receiving emotional love. He also made each of us unique. Which means that what makes one of us feel loved, will not necessarily make the other feel loved. [Thus, we must learn the primary love language of our spouses is we want them to feel loved.]

Nothing is more important to the emotional climate of your marriage than asking God to teach you how to effectively love your spouse. Learning his or her primary love language and speaking it regularly will make you an effective lover.