The easiest level of communication is simply sharing day-to-day events. Sometime ago, a wife said to me: "My husband's job takes him out of town for three days. When he returns, I ask him "How did things go?" To which he responds: "fine." Three days away," she said, "and all I get is 'fine'. Now that doesn't tell me much.

Do you understand what she is saying. She is separated from the events in her husband's life by three days, and "fine" does not bridge the distance. His response every husband will appreciate: "I want to leave my work at work. I don't want to bring it home and hash it over again."

Every husband can identify with that statement, but it overlooks one important factor: intimacy with one's wife. Tell her everything guys. Break the cycle. Give her all the details. About a week of this and you can drop back and hit the high points or the low points. But if she is complaining, give her more. Choose to communicate. It breeds intimacy.