Questions become an important stimulus to communication. If the husband comes home and the wife does not ask, "How did things go?" perhaps she is communicating, "I don't care how things went." If a husband never inquires about the wife's experiences, she may feel rejected and unloved. Asking questions about the day-to-day events is the easiest and best place to begin.

If you are afraid that such questions will fill up your whole evening and allow you no time for other interests, then set limits. "Tell me three things that happened in your life today and how you feel about them?" is a request with limits. It won't take all night, but it will give you more information than many couples are sharing each day.

If each of you share three things that happened today and how you feel about them you are on the road to good communication. Bring the children in on the act. Let them share three things. They need to learn to communicate also. Who knows, someday, they may get married!