The husband who is satisfied with simply putting food on the table has a very limited view of the importance of his role as husband. The wife who is satisfied with cooking that food has a very limited view of the importance of her role as wife.

Food is important, but it is only foundational. It is not the final word. We have needs for love, affection, tenderness, kindness, and encouragement. These are as foundational to our emotional health as food is to our physical health.

Once the food is on the table, it is now time to nurture each others inner emotional needs. Why not make a list of what you think your spouse's needs are. Then ask them to make a list of their needs. Rank them in order of importance. Then compare your lists. You may find that you have been spending your energy in the wrong place. Remember your spouse is the expert on his/her needs.