Trouble is inevitable, but misery is optional. Attitude has to do with the way I choose to think about things. It has to do with one's focus. Two men looked through prison bars - one saw mud, the other stars. Two people were in a troubled marriage - one cursed, the other prayed. The difference always is attitude.

Negative thinking tends to beget negative thinking. Focus on how terrible the situation is, and it will get worse. Focus on one positive thing, and another will appear. In the darkest night of a troubled marriage, there is always a flickering light. Focus on that light and it will eventually flood the room.

Maintaining a positive attitude in a troubled marriage may seem impossible, but the Christian has outside help. Lord, help me to see my marriage the way you see it. Help me to view my spouse the way you view them. Help me to think the thoughts that you have toward them. This kind of praying will lead you to a positive attitude.