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You're
Spouse is the "Silent Type".
So you're spouse is the silent type. Let me
give you some suggestions. Get your pencil ready this will come fast.
1. Stop saying "I wish you'd talk more."
This is condemning and does not stimulate conversation.
2. Ask specific questions. "How was your
day?" is much too general. "What did you have for lunch today?" is much
better. Start with soliciting facts, later you can move to feelings.
3. Check your own output. If you are
talking too much, your spouse will never talk more. Did you hear about the
little boy who asked his father for help in writing a paper on
"Garden Clubs"? His father said: "Son, I don't know
anything about Garden Clubs, go ask your mother." To which the little
boy responded, "Dad, I don't want to know that much."
4. Replace criticisms with compliments.
"John, I really appreciate you taking out the garbage." Is
much better than "About time you took the garbage out, the flies were
going to carry it out for you." Compliments encourage talking.
Criticism closes the door.
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