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Admitting to
Failure.
When we are separated, it is easy for us to identify
the failure of our mates, but more difficult to admit our own. I have
often given individuals a sheet of paper and asked them to list the faults
of their spouse. They will write profusely for ten or fifteen minutes.
Some have even asked for more paper.
Then I ask them to make a list of their own faults.
Most people can think of one! But I have seen them sit there and sit there
trying to think of number two. And seldom has anyone come back to my
office with more than four things on his or her list. Twenty-seven things
wrong with his wife, but he only has four on his list.
We tend to see ourselves through rose colored
glasses. Our faults do not look very big to us because we are used to
them. We have lived with them for years. Naturally, then, we attribute the
real problem to our mate's behavior. But Jesus said: First, get the beam
out of your own eye, then you can see more clearly to help your mate deal
with his/her wrong. Admitting your own failure, is the first step in
seeking genuine reconciliation.
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